There are times when I say something and I know the person I am talking does not understand my side of the story because they have no knowledge of it. I can get so frustrated, especially when I am at work.
But it’s those moments that are the best learning opportunities, rather than thinking how much I wish I didn’t say what I said, I should focus on how to approach the situation next time to get a better result.
Until next time
Girl with the Afro: Design Studio - The Lime Suit
Because we are social beings external validation is important. It is important to “play nice” and “to share”. There is an element of our learned behaviours that weigh heavily on seeking others approval.
But it’s when the external validation becomes more important to is than internal validation.
Because we are social beings it is vital that we find a way to exist harmoniously without loosing our own identity.
Don’t let external validation rule your life.
Because everyone else is taken.
Until next time,
A glimpse of my new sewing room :)
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A couple weeks ago I was having a conversation with an uncle about office politics and he told me I had to remember that there is likely to be at least 1 person in a group that I would not see eye to eye with.
Since that conversation I have been looking over my shoulder for this 1 person so that I can be ready to run a mile. Because, quite frankly working in a office is tough enough.
However, because I have been looking over my shoulder I failed to realise that I am the 1 in 10. How I think is different to most people in the office, how I approach a situation is different to that of other team members. So this person I was hoping to run away from is me.
It made me realise that that person, the 1 in 10, is not a bad person to be feared or blamed for the failure of something. Instead that person has something to contribute, if you are willing to listen. Just because they don’t agree with everything you say or believe doesn’t make them wrong. It makes them different and it’s these differences that can have a positive impact.
On the flip side if you like me realise that you are the 1 in 10. Don’t dismiss others behaviours as wrong, learn to play their game. It may be beneficial in the long run rather than constantly fighting against them. But you must stay true to yourself, don’t become someone else, learn to positively influence others by getting a greater understanding of their behaviours.
Until next time